Isn't a fantasy the best aphrodisiac?

I'm trying to find a video that I originally saw on Motherless, but I can't seem to find for the life of me.

It's set in a coffee shop or bistro of some sort. The bartender slips an aphrodisiac or something into the short and busty waitress girl's drink that has her strip down in the middle of the shop to give him a blowjob/titfuck/sex. There's also two other girls in the scene who have spiked drinks, one complaining about how her boyfriend cheated on her with another girl she caught him with in the sack, that eventually turns into arranging a foursome.

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Week #2 : Male Sex Appeal

It's an unusual quirk of western civilization that part of maturing as a woman is learning how to be (or not be) sexually appealing. The media is constantly throwing images of what a sexy woman looks like and how sexy women talk and act at us constantly. Mothers are telling their daughters which clothes are �a little too old� and which they can wear out... Whether we mean to or not, we do a very good job of educating females on how their bodies and behavior generate sex appeal.
Men? Not so much. At best, most men go through life thinking that being visibly fit is the key to sex appeal. Some might also throw in that being 'friendly' or 'close' helps. Other than that I think most men, if they are honest, will concede they don't really know what makes one guy really appealing and what undermines a guy's chances of hooking up.

Well, in the spirit of helping, I'd like to share some of my own observations about male sexuality.

Physical fitness definitely is part of male sexuality. In most cases, being visibly fit does get you reactions... but it's not the only part and not even the largest part of male sexuality. Neither is facial attractiveness. I'm sure any girl can tell you about a few guys they've met who were physically very gifted but who just didn't �have a spark�, or guys who maybe were doughy or not the prettiest, but who made them go gooey inside. Let's take a look at some things often overlooked in this crazy mating game we play:

Body Language � Your Mouth Says �Date Me.� But Your Body Says �I'm Worthless�?
Body language is a complicated subject. Basically, every time you come in contact with other people, you're sending signals in the way you carry yourself, your expressions, the way your eyes move and a hundred thousand other cues. Even though you aren't aware of it, there's a part of the human brain with the sole job of taking what your eyes, ears and nose are telling you and breaking it down. As a result, even an Adonis can send signals that say �I'm Undateable�. Some common things that make a huge difference to how others see you:

Smile � People are drawn to happiness. Some part of our brain believes that happiness is contagious. Multiple studies have shown that when you smile, other people instinctively smile back, report feeling better, and actually move closer to you without realizing it. The reverse is true of blank-face or frowning; you can make people unconsciously repulsed by your -lack- of happiness. When you catch yourself expressionless or distracted, focus on holding a soft smile and watch how rapidly it changes people's view of you.
Eye Contact � Animals, humanity included, use eye contact to establish dominance and rank in the herd. When you fail to make eye contact, it sends a cue to those you are speaking to that says �I consider myself below or unworthy of you�. The simple act of making and holding eye contact as you talk and listen sends a powerful message that says �We are peers� and is a major part of creating a spark.
Nodding � For many people, it's natural to softly nod as you converse. This is another really powerful cue. By nodding as you talk, you are telling those watching you �I absolutely believe what I am saying.� This projects personal strength. By nodding as you listen, you are telling the speaker �I understand and agree with you; we think similarly.� This simple action can cause a stranger, by the end of a conversation, to want to stay in touch with you and to feel a personal connection.

Confidence � A chance at sex\relationship is not a favor being given to you.
I'm not going to try and tell you that thinking you're God's gift to humanity is going to get you laid. It's not true. On the other hand, if you walk into an encounter with a potential partner with the belief that they are doing you a favor by talking to you or considering you, it will impact your word choice, body language and tone and believe me, it will make it harder to see you as a potential love/sex match. You should practice walking into a first-encounter friendly, open and secure in the knowledge that you are WORTH getting close to. If this seems hard, practice faking it. Repeat it to yourself until you can say it without feeling like a fraud or wincing.

Speaking � Sometimes the most attractive organ you've got is your golden tongue
Just as what your body is doing is a complex part of attraction, so is what your voice is. Tone of voice, word selection and speaking habits all can influence how people hear and evaluate you. Here are some points on this:

Tone - Ever listened to someone drone on and on? It's anti-sexy. A good speaking voice should be light and fluid, rising and lowering like music, communicating your feelings, mood and intentions. A lot of people, as they become nervous, speed up and become monotone. Fight this urge, it will make you come across as shallow, wooden and uninteresting. Speak a little slower and really infuse your words with your mood.
Word Choice � Ever noticed how certain phrases just aren't very attractive to hear? �Excuse me� is a great example. It has an exhalation (Ex) followed by a hard dorsal velar (Kuh). These sorts of sounds grate on the ear, and it's part of why hearing someone repeatedly say �Excuse me� is so much more grating than hearing them use �Pardon me� or �I'm sorry�. Research into phoenetics has found an interesting quirk; certain sounds are sexy, regardless of the language. L, M, N and a silibant S all are considered erotic sounds. Using words that prominently feature these sounds soothe and even arouse people. On the other hand, F, X, K, D and T are just the opposite; they make people argumentative, aggitated and unresponsive. Weird, huh?
Questions � Ask questions. Give other people the chance to reveal as much about themselves as possible. Periodically include tidbits about yourself and your thoughts so that it doesn't come across an interrogation, but showing that you're interested in them and their lives is a great way to encourage them to become interested in you.

Last but not least, the most powerful tool in your arsenal as a male, bar none.....

Attraction : I'm So Into You For Being Into Me...
Huh, what's that? You're wondering what this means? One of the strongest aphrodisiacs known to mankind is when we know other people desire us. Let it leak a little... don't be afraid to say things like �I think you're really attractive� or �I saw you and thought 'I really want to get to know that person'�. I know, it sounds forward and that maybe isn't your style and what if they think you're a perv and.... trust me, if you can admit to being attracted without getting raunchy or fawning over them for ten minutes, it's a serious plus to your chances. Even if they aren't attracted to you in the slightest, hearing that you are attracted to them may cause them to immediately reconsider you. It's that powerful.

So, that about wraps it up for this little column. This is Yesm, telling you all the things your gay pal wishes you knew (but never tells you).